I have said many times you can’t change your bride; however, that statement is incorrect. It would be more accurate to say you can’t make your bride change in the way you would like her to change. The truth is our words and actions affect those around us, and that affect can and does bring change. Unfortunately, we usually have very little control over the nature of that change.
Years ago, we had a dog that hung out with me when I was working in my wood-shop. I taught that dog the meaning of the word “move”. When I said “Dusty, move” she would get up and move at least ten feet. When I needed to be where the dog was, this command worked great – but if I wanted the dog to go to a certain place, the odds of “move” getting her where I wanted her would be very low. The changes our words and actions bring about in our wife are a lot like this – we may ensure a change, but the odds of it being the change we want are very small.
Have you been saying “move” to your bride? How’s that working for you?