What if I don’t like who God wants her to be?

August 15, 2011

in Be a grownup, Change, Seeing Clearly, YOU4HER

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I suggested yesterday that we are the happiest when we are what God intended us to be, and that because of this we should each want our wife to be what God wants her to be.

That’s all well and good, but what if who God wants her to be is not to your liking? What then?

  • If God put the two of you together, then who He intended her to be will be to your liking – if you are becoming who He intended you to be.
  • If God did not out the two of you together, once you were married He intended you to stay together, and you need to work things out.
  • Regardless of the above, if you love her, you should sacrifice for her.

Bottom line: There is no easy way out of this – it’s going to take change and/or sacrifice. The best-case scenario is that you are wrong – either about who God wants her to be, or how you will feel about who God wants her to be. Whatever the case, this is one of those man-up, step-up, and do what is right things.

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2 comments
The Generous Husband
The Generous Husband

@Evan - Short answer yes. Long answer, we need to be sure we are seeing clearly, and we need to know that God wants us to say something. I can look back and see many times I got in the way of what God was doing by saying something true - even something true in love. It's easy to jump the gun and mess up something God has planned to deal with her in another way; a way she will be better able to hear.

Evan
Evan

But there are many times when we can be pretty sure she is not being what God intended; isn't that what you were talking about when you suggested lovingly correcting her?

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