Dueling Tweets

September 23, 2011

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Dueling Tweets © Dny3dcom | Dreamstime.comI just scheduled the following for retweet on the TMB twitter feed:

It’s your duty as a husband to bring out the best in your wife, to build her up, to make her feel wonderful, beautiful and strong!@AwesomeHusbands

How deeply we can love another is largely dependent upon how deeply we love ourselves. Many love relationships end due to self hatred.@FeliceDunas

I agree with both of those fully, and I find the combination of the two especially powerful. I think we are all called to bring out the best in others, to build them up, to help them become all they can be. Certainly we are required first and foremost to do this for our spouse, then our children, and on out. If we are not actively building up our spouse, something is very wrong, and it needs to be deal with ASAP.

One thing that can be wrong is a lack of “self-love”. I know some in the church have taken humility and not having pride to an extreme that makes the words “self-love” seem like heresy, but that’s not what God intended. Jesus told us to love our neighbours as ourselves – if we don’t love and care for ourselves, we won’t do a very good job of loving others. Sure, we can go too far and become selfish, but without a certain level of self-love and self-care we are of no long-term use to anyone else.

Tech bonus: If you run more than one computer on your desk, I have a program that will make your life so much easier. (See Mac and mixed platforms below.) Mouse Without Boarders installs on two to four PCs and used the local network to share a single mouse and keyboard with all the systems. Your mouse moves off the screen of one computer and onto the screen of the next. Works even if you have multiple screens on one of the systems. In addition to this, it allows you to share copy and paste across systems, drag files from one PC to another, and to lock all the systems at once.

For Mac, try Teleport – shared mouse and keyboard, as well as synchronized pasteboard and file drag and drop.

For Linux, or to use across platforms, there is Synergy – shared mouse, keyboard and copy and paste.

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2 comments
Jonathan
Jonathan

Paul, for the first time ever I am going to take issue with somthing you say. You say, in saying "Love they neighbour as thyself..." Jesus is saying that we should love ourselves. If you compare scripture with scripture, and find out what God says on that topic in other scriptures, you will find that this is more of an indictment on us than a command. Romans 12:3 For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith. Here we are told not to think more highly of ourselves than we ought to think. Philippians 2:3 Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. This imo puts the aregument of loving ourselves equally with our neighbour to bed. Here we are told to esteem other(s) BETTER than ourselves. Ephesians 5:29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: This tells us that we don't have be told to love ourselves. It is natural, and the unnatural thing is to put others first, and that includes our bride, (lest I be accused of taking this out of context). Having said all that, a HEALTHY self image is a far cry from hating ourselves. WHast should our self image be like? Well... John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. John 3:17 For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. 1 John 4:19 We love him, because he first loved us. If we have a proper self image, we will see ourselves as fallen but forgiven, of immeasurable worth to God, so much so that he not only paid the price for our sins in His death on the cross, but then gave us the opportunity to be BORN AGAIN, (John 3:3) get ADOPTED INTO HIS FAMILY, (Romans 8:15, Galatians 4:5 and Ephesians 1:5) [it is this that gives the lie to those who say we cna lose our salvation] and to become JOINT HEIRS with JESUS HIMSELF. (Romans 817) So far from hating ourselves, if we see ourselves as God sees us, we are immeasurably valuable. As our brides ought to be to us. Thank you so much for your posts over the years. I have striven to become a much more generous husband because of them. God Bless you.

The Generous Husband
The Generous Husband

@Jonathan - I don't really disagrees with what you have said, but I think we are not talking about the same people. I have known those who feel guilty for caring about themselves at all, those who think only harsh self treatment is acceptable to God - as if their acts of self neglect make them worth. All that you say is fine, if it's taken in balance. But when these and other scriptures are taken out of balance and twisted, the results are anything but Godly.

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