I’ve mentioned before that this verse should be stated as a command (as it is in the ESV), not a fact. I’ve also mentioned that the marriage bed part of the verse means we can commit sexual sin in our marriage bed. What does the first part of the verse mean? I see this as a command not only to honour my marriage, but also to hold all marriages in a place of honour. But what does that mean? Honour is not as well understood in the western world as it once was. When I was young, most people respected and honoured certain things – the flag, veterans, pastors, and the elderly among others. Most people would show respect for any of these, be offended by those who did not show respect, and possibly step in to “correct” those who did not show respect. Today we don’t see that nearly as much, but it’s what honour is supposed to look like.
For me, honouring marriage means respecting it, guarding it, and correcting those who do not show respect for it. This also means doing these things not for “marriage as an institution” but for married couples. It means being ready to pray for them, offer them help, and even get in their business if it is clear they are in trouble. I know that is not the way the world is today – and that is part of why we have so many divorces.
How can you honour your marriage? How can you honour the marriages of others? Step up. Please.
Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
This is the third and final “catch up” set of blog links.
He Said/She Said: Name Calling: Are you doing this to your bride?
MT Project: “This weeks Marriage Truth: My spouse needs me to be interested in them!”
Dude Challenge: Lesson Learned: Are you teaching your kids to disrespect their mother?
MT Project: My Spouse Needs Access to Everything: I agree – EVERYTHING!
He Said/She Said: Cheating: If you have to ask, you are probably already guilty!
One Flesh Marriage
Education Ammunition: Marriage books can be a help – if you use the correctly.
Fight the Good Fight: Kate adds some great thoughts on what Brad said above.
The Imposter Wife: Change “wife” to “husband” and the post still works.
For Her Pleasure: Yes, it’s your job …
Hold That Pose: Would your bride like a professionally done portrait of the two of you?
Smile For the Camera Guys: Brad’s wise follow up to the above.
But From There: A good word for perfectionists.
The First Year “Marriage Talk”: I love this idea – maybe you could get it instituted as a lay ministry at your church?
Is Your Marriage on Cruise?: Good for driving, not so much for marriages.
The Pure Bed’s Blog
Marriage’s 10 Commandments: Well done.
Romantic Act of the Day
The Romantic Vineyard
How To Encourage When Facing Discouraging Times: Great thoughts on something we all face from time to time.
Water Into Wine – Proverbs 16: Kind words really can do wonders.
A Fragrant Aroma – Not Again!: Do your wife’s “silly fears” make you her hero, or do you make her feel bad?
Pick Up On Aisle 4: Like it when women flirt with you?
Our First Priority: Grandma explains to her grand-kids why mommy and daddy are vacationing without them.
Date Night Idea: Fall In Love: A punny post with a great idea.
What Does A Healthy Marriage Look Like?: A four minute video that answers the question well.
Water Into Wine – Proverbs 19: To what are you listening?
Water Into Wine – Proverbs 20: Are you walking in the dark? Is your marriage?
October Challenge: Here’s your chance to tell Debi and Tom what you want them to write about.
Safe at home
Don’t Miss Important Lessons in a Tragedy : An important lesson to learn!
Tips For Keeping Your Home SAFE : Great ways to make your home safe for your kids and your bride.
Great Communication: The Importance of Timing: This is a huge issue for some – is your timing off?
From a nice guy to a man of his word: Corey continues to beat up on nice guys!
Seeking More Romance? Help Mom with the Kids: This is a great post!
Don’t analyze your wife: It’s a bad plan, and here’s why.
Stupendous Marriage Show 014: Does Love Keep a Marriage Together, and Losing Interest in Your Spouse: Includes the second part of the interview Stu did with my bride and me.