I saw a tweet today that made me realise modern conveniences and time savers are contributing to marriage problems.
Husbands could do wonders for their communication with their wives if they would just help with the dishes and talk to them. @mountainman1001
In days gone by, couples had more opportunities to talk as they:
- Did the dishes together.
- Worked the broom and dustpan – or at least could talk if one was sweeping and the other was in the room (try that with a vacuum!)
- Drove into town together (once a week, maybe, and it was a family event). Today the radio or CD player likely prevent conversation.
- Sat on the couch or front porch. (Did you know television stations use to go off-air over night?)
I’m not opposed to dishwashers, or TV, or any of the other things we use to save time or entertain ourselves, but each of these items can interfere with our having time with our spouse. Moreover, it’s not just conversation and quality time that is being effected – time for physical affection (sexual and otherwise) is limited as well. It use to be rare for a couple to go to bed at different times. One might stay up reading, but they did it there in bed or in a chair near the bed. The couple was together in the bedroom, and that left them open for talking, snuggling, and having sex. Today 24 hour TV and the ever on Internet means a lot of couples go to bed, and get up, at different times.
What is eating up time you and your bride could (should) be spending together? Discuss this together. Decide what is important to you, individually and as a couple, then make adjustments to ensure those things are a regular part of your life together.