I still have an urge to put my hands in my pockets when I enter a knick-knack shop or antique store. The reason? When we were kids, my mother always told us to do this so we would not pick things up and break them.
So why at the age of 50 do I still have to fight the urge to put my hands in my pockets when I go into such a shop? When I realised what I was doing, and why, I started to fight it. Why did I feel uncomfortable when my hands were not in my pockets? The answer to both of those is that our childhood has a deep and lasting impact on us, for good and for bad.
My example is one that is somewhat obvious; most holdovers from childhood are far less easy to spot. Yet, those things are still there, and they are still affecting how you act and how you treat others.
When you over react, especially with your bride, think about why you did what you did. If the current situation does not explain your reaction, what in your past is driving that reaction? It’s not easy to change patterns like this, but being aware of them is a good start. Don’t be controlled by your past!