Do you ever feel you can’t do something up to the standard you bride expects? Or, maybe you know you could reach that standard if you worked at it, but not as fast as she expects you to reach it. Maybe you could do it to her standard now, but it would take an unreasonable amount of time and/or effort. For any of these, a natural reaction is just giving up. If you cannot please her, why even try?
While not doing it at all is a natural reaction, it is not a good one. Assuming you have talked about her standard, and she has not been willing to bend, you need a third alternative to her way or doing nothing at all. The best way to deal with something like this is to decide what a reasonable standard is and do that, regardless of how she reacts. If she complains, tell her you feel you can’t or shouldn’t do it to her standard, or that you are working at it and will get better with time. Let her know you love her and care about how she wants things done, but in this area (or areas, it is likely more than one) you don’t feel her standard is reasonable.
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