There are many things for which I am thankful; this one is closely related to what I do here.
I am deeply thankful for the number of Christian marriage and sex blogs, web sites, and so on that have started in the last few years.
We started doing this fourteen years ago next month, and back then there were too few doing the marriage side, and virtually no one doing sexuality. That changed very little over the first decade of our ministry, but things have really taken off the last few years. I appreciate the many added voices for two reasons – more voices means more people will take the message seriously, and since we all hear and learn differently, more voices means a better chance for each individual and couple to find someone who can give them what they need the way they need to hear it.
I am also thankful to those who do this because I know what it costs these folks to do what they do. I understand the time and effort, and that being consistent interferers with their “real lives.” I also know that no one is getting rich doing this. As Julie of Intimacy in Marriage said recently “You thought we all were in it for the money. If only you knew how little money a blog can make. And how much it can cost.” Many, probably most, of those who do this kind of thing are paying out of their pockets for the privilege. Most don’t break even, and those who do are making less than minimum wage for their time. My point here is that all these fine people are trying to help marriages not out of a desire for fame or fortune. To quote Julie again “we desperately want to encourage other married folks.” That is really what drives us – we feel called to do what we can to see fewer divorces, better marriages, and more and better sex in marriage. We are compelled, we want to be a blessing, we want to be used to bring about change.
Please, do whatever you can to encourage those who blog about marriage. Leave a comment just to say thank you. Make a donation, buy their book, buy an affiliate item, or send them a gift from their Amazon or other wish list. Share the blogs you like with your friends, and please pray for the authors! This is not easy, and there is a spiritual battle for those who are trying to improve marriages.
On a personal note: As I type this, we have hit the one-third mark in our year-end fund raising goal! We are amazed and blessed, thanks to all who have contributed.