Five words jumped out of the sermon today – “The tyranny of the moment.” Does “the moment” ever cause you to do stupid things in your marriage?
- You are so caught up in whatever you are doing you are rude to your bride either in word or deed.
- You are so focused on your immediate goal you don’t listen to her.
- You are so ready for sleep you fail to give her the ten minutes of talking and cuddling that would make such a big difference to her.
- You are so desirous of sex you don’t take the time to warm up her body and mind first.
- You are so upset at being interrupted you don’t even hear what she said.
- You are so desperate to get ahead of the bozo who cut you off in traffic you terrify your wife with your driving.
In one way or another, each of those is putting some short-term thing with no long-term significance ahead of the woman you promised to love, honour, and cherish. This sends to her the message she is less important than whatever you are doing or wanting in the moment, and that’s not a message that blesses her or helps your marriage!
The term “tyranny of the moment” is appropriate as we can give in to the moment. We want what we want, when we want it, and we want to deal with what we are focused on to the exclusion of everything else. It’s easy to get such a narrow focus on now we make a mess of later.