This is another post based on information from When Baby Makes Three, the 2011 State of Our Unions a report from the National Marriage Project.
The study found that a good sex is very important for a good marriage. Specifically “above average sexual satisfaction” was the number one predictor of being very happy in marriage. Compared to those with “below average sexual sanctification” reporting being very happy was 38 percentage points higher for men and 39 percentage points higher for women. Additionally, high sexual satisfaction was the number two predictor of not being prone to separation or divorce, for both men and women. For husbands and wives a good sex life means a happier marriage and a very low chance of divorce.
It was further found that high sexual satisfaction is more common for both men and women in marriages that have “high levels of generosity, commitment, religious faith, and couple-centered quality time”. Additionally, women were more likely to report sexual satisfaction if they felt their husband was doing his share of the housework.
Inevitable rant: So we now have proof that a great sex life is the number one way to help people have happier marriages and the number two way to reduce divorces. If the church is really all about good marriages and preventing divorce, it seems to me that we need to get very serious about helping couples with sex. We’ve abdicated our God given to teach about sex, and the devastation we see in marriages is the fruit of that. I think we need to repent, ask God to forgive us, and seek Him about how we can change all this. Let’s be bold about telling both those who follow Jesus and those who do not that God created sex, intended it for pleasure, and designed it to make marriages strong and happy. Or, we can continue to let the world define sex, and have more of the same… or worse!
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