This is another post based on information from When Baby Makes Three, the 2011 State of Our Unions a report from the National Marriage Project.
The report has some encouraging things to say about the importance of faith, and more specifically of a shared faith with regards to marital happiness and not ending up divorced. For men and women, “both spouses having above average marital spirituality” was the third highest predictor of not being prone to separation or divorce. For men this was the fifth most important predictor of being very happy in their marriage. Additionally, both spouses attending religious services at least once a week was the fourth highest predictor of not being prone to separation of divorce for men.
Over all shared religious attendance results in an increase in the likelihood that married couples with children will say they are “very happy” their marriage – nine percentage points up for men and 14 for women. Additionally, such couples decrease the chance of separation or divorce – a 15 percentage point drop for men and nine for women . There are two key words there - attendance and shared. Identifying one’s self as religious does not have any effect, but actually attending regularly does. (This is standard of true religious expression that Christian researcher George Barna has found to be the most accurate). Secondly, the attendance much be shared – both husband and wife must go.
Even more substantial was the effect of both the husband and the wife agreeing that “God is the center of our marriage” with a massive 50% increase in both genders saying they were very happy in their marriage. What’s more, these couples have only a 1% proneness to divorce.
Bottom line: Faith can make a huge difference to both the happiness and longevity of a marriage, but that faith must be active and shared by both spouses.
Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
In this series:
New blog this week – Mystery32. Another Twitter find. I’ve only read a few (and liked what I saw) and my bride says it’s great.
Don’t Be Afraid To Try Something New: Even “safe and simple” thing work!
Black and Married with Kids
How To Grow In The Same Direction : Very wise words!
When’s The Last Time You Told Your Spouse …: Check yourself on these!
Maintaining Marital Bliss, This Christmas: Good conversation starter with your bride.
Why Routine In Your Marriage Is Important: Great balance to the try something new post above!
Occupy Your Marriage: Why didn’t I think of this!
What Do You Do When Divorce Has Become an Option? 10 Steps To Save Your Marriage: Great article – read and apply if divorce is an option in your mind!
What Do You Do When Divorce Has Become an Option? 10 Steps To Save Your Marriage: TEXT
Couple Things Blog
Hot, Holy and Humorous
Hot, Holy and Humorous: 10 Intimate Things to Enjoy for Christmas : Guys will especially like the last half of the list.
Where Should I Look during Sex? : A good one to share with your lady!
Journey to Surrender
Journey to Surrender: Marriage is Not A Zero-Sum Game: It’s not, and if you think it is, you will have trouble.
Want a Happier Marriage? Be Generous.: Lori Lowe’s take on the report I’ve been dissecting the last few days.
MT Project: My Spouse Needs Me to Believe the Best: A very nice balance here, well done!
One Flesh Marriage
The Guy’s Gift Guide to Wow Your Wife : A great way to think about gifts for her.
The Romantic Vineyard
Who are you Blaming?: Are you taking the easy way out?
A Penny For Your Thoughts – Conversation Starters for Couples: I’ve only had a chance to skim this, and it looks awesome. Saw a couple I don’t know the answers to for my bride! All of 99¢ each.
Stupendous Marriage Show 024: Assume Love, Marriage At All Time Low, Conversation Starters: Discussion of the new e-books (above) a study I’ve not gotten to, and a web site I will be linking to in the future.
Winning at Romance
Three Lies About Sex. Are You Believing Them?: A great guest post form Julie Sibert .