I have heard many times in my life that people don’t really change. Apparently many believe this to be true. It may be their experience, but I have both seen and experienced real, significant, and permanent changes in myself and others. I was once very judgmental and tended towards legalism. I suspect some of that still shows here and there at times, but I am no longer that person. It does not take effort to not be like that because I am really different.
I credit my changes to the power of God working in my life. Most of the real, long term changes I have seen in others also result from a close walk with the Lord. I won’t say it’s impossible without Him, but it certainly is far more difficult and less common. Beyond this, the Lord helps me to see what needs to be changed. As I walk with Him and study His Word, I see in myself things that I come to dislike, even hate. This gives me both direction and cause for change. I then enter into prayer, seeking how I might stop what I hate and start doing what I have come to see as good and right.
If you have a relationship with Jesus, make Him the starting place for change. Don’t just seek His help to change, seek His wisdom about what to change, and what needs to be dealt with first.
Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
A Grown Up Marriage
Preferences, Aversions, Inhibitions, Intolerance and Growth: A brilliant post – he gets it!
Black and Married with Kids
Silence: The Silent Killer For Marriage: Very true – a silent marriage is a marriage in big trouble.
Divorce Busting Blog
Intimacy in Marriage
Is It Reasonable to Say “No” to Oral Sex?: If you want oral sex, or more of it, you want to read what Julie has to say.
Journey to Surrender
Liberty vs License in Marriage : Once again Scott says what I think better than I could!
Marriage Truth Project: It’s better to give than receive: Applying this truth in a variety of ways.
One Flesh Marriage
Sex: The Art of Asking for More-2011: The One Flesh Marriage countdown has a lot of great articles – this is but one.
The Romantic Vineyard
A New Year Challenge: 31 Days To Pray For Your Spouse Challenge: Late notice, but the book is an e-book, so you can get it right away.
Safe at home
Don’t Wait To Do What Matters Most : PLEASE READ THIS POST!!!
Secrets of Marriage : A very good list, and a great thought and conversation starter.
I’ve not had time to listen to the last two pod casts – and am impressed they had time to do them. It’s on my list for next week – why not put it on your list? Stupendous Marriage Show 025: Merry Christmas! and Setting Goals for Your Marriage in the New Year – Stupendous Marriage Show
…to Love Honor and Vacuum
AM I TOO HARD ON WOMEN? : This is for the men who say I am too hard on them and need to beat up on women more. Sheila has that part covered!
RESOLUTIONS YOU CAN KEEP: Are you “trying to become someone [you] we’re never going to be”? Don’t, it won’t end well.