Withholding does not inspire generosity

January 8, 2012

in Be a grownup, Links to good stuff

Selfish lovers © Ekaterina Gorelova | Dreamstime.comWhy do we think we can get what we want/need from our spouse by withholding from them what they want/need?

  • Love
  • Respect
  • Sex
  • Communication
  • Acceptance
  • Understanding
  • Affirmation
  • Time
  • Kindness
  • Sympathy
  • Patience
  • Mercy
  • Forgiveness
  • Peace

There are almost certainly several items on that list which your bride would like more of from you. There are no doubt several on the list which you would like more of from her. Do you think not giving her more of what she wants will cause her to give you more of what you want? Do you think giving her even less of what she wants will cause her to see the light and give you more of what you want?

Do your actions suggest you think giving her less will get you more?

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John Delcamp
John Delcamp

This is a biblical principal - one of those that is completely opposite of how we think and how society operates - "Give and it will be given to you, pressed down, shaken together and running over." Every Believer should learn and apply this principal to every area of their life and they would see God do the impossible. Maybe we should stop just believing in God and get down to believing God.

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