Different is not wrong … or stupid

January 24, 2012

in Encouragement, Seeing Clearly

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It seems we live in a world that looks down on “different”. Even in so-called “open-minded” circles, only certain differences are tolerated, and even fewer are praised.

What about your marriage – is it open to different? Do you and your bride “allow” each other to be unique, or do you work to keep each other within certain bounds? I’m not talking of moral things here, but of different ways of seeing things, and different ways of doing things.

The great thing about different is it allows you to see things the crowd does not see. Different sees ideas, beauty, and innovation that others miss. Different sees a way to solve a problem others cannot solve. When we discourage different we reduce society; when we encourage different we enrich society. In marriage it’s the same way; encouraging your spouse where she is different enriches your marriage; limiting her limits your marriage in many ways.

By the way, this one is a bit personal to me. I am a bit eccentric. Actually, I am a bit more than a bit eccentric. Early in our marriage, my bride was often embarrassed by/for me or concerned about how I might be perceived. I fully understand why she felt this way. However, she did not stay embarrassed or concerned – she grew to accept and to love (most) of my oddities. She still warns me if she thinks I am going to offend or hurt others (and I am deeply grateful for that), but she has given me the extreme gift of acceptance. You can give the same gift, if you choose.

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4 comments
Ric C
Ric C

Difference is a nice opportunity to bring interest/surprise/novelty/fun in the couple. It enriches: who wants to have a dull life? Of course if you're TOO eccentric than maybe it could be a sanctified path for your spouse...

Sexy Christian Wife
Sexy Christian Wife

I've had to learn this about my husband concerning his walk with God. God has given him different passions and a different path to follow than he has given me. I am much more family centered and he is more concerned about false teachings. I had to keep telling myself, they are both good and necessary. He is not wrong because he is not passionate about the same things I am.

Marvin
Marvin

Diversity...without division Unity...without uniformity

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