Even the coldest, most selfish, can be touched by love and sacrifice

January 31, 2012

in Links to good stuff, The "D" word

This is the first part in a series for men facing divorce. See parts two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine and ten.

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The following was a story our pastor told last Sunday. George Müller shared this story to show how a wife can win her husband to the Lord without a word, as Peter suggests in 1 Peter 3:1-2.

Müller spoke of a wealthy German gentleman whose wife was a devout believer. The man was a heavy drinker and he spent his nights in the tavern. His wife would send the servants to bed, staying up herself to great her husband lovingly when he finally got home. She never complained or nagged, and when necessary she would undress her husband and help him to bed.

One night in the tavern he said to his cronies, “I bet if we go to my house, my wife will be sitting up, waiting for me. She’ll come to the door, give us a royal welcome, and even make supper for us, if I ask her.”

They were sceptical at first, but decided to go along and see. Sure enough, she came to the door, received them courteously, and willingly agreed to make supper for them without the slightest trace of resentment. After serving them, she went off to her room. As soon as she had left, one of the men began to condemn the husband. “What kind of a man are you to treat such a good woman so miserably?” The accuser got up without finishing his supper and left the house. Another did the same, then another till they had all departed without eating the meal.

Within a half hour, the husband became deeply convicted of his wickedness, and especially of his heartless treatment of his wife. He went to his wife’s room, asked her to pray for him, repented of his sins, and surrendered to Christ. From then on, he became a devoted disciple of the Lord Jesus. Won without a word! 1

This story shows how love and sacrifice can change even the heart of someone who is cold and selfish. I’ve heard a couple of stories similar to this – it does happen. Tomorrow I will turn this around and discuss how a man facing divorce can save his marriage. In the meantime, please read the article The Walk-away Wife Syndrome by Michele Weiner-Davis of Divorce busting.

1 Source: George Müller, in a periodical called The Word, edited by Richard Burson, date unknown, pp. 33–35.)

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2 comments
Eruvwu
Eruvwu

Powerful display grace and love and how it leads us to repentance. Thank you so much for sharing, I'm going to do the same.

Jeff
Jeff

Paul, I love the story. It's a great testament to what the scriptures call a godly wife. However, I would suggest as an epilogue to the story, that this wifes CONTINUED chaste, humble, and gentle behavior toward her newly redeemed husband is just as vital to Gods will for her, the marriage, and their Christian witness in their community. Consider this: Many Christian wives and husbands simply grow tired of their spouse, then QUIT obeying God. They may remain polite, respectable, even submissive to one another at church or out in public, but that's where their Christian witness is hollow. If non Christians could see the frosty-cold, disappointed, resentful interior of these "christians" marriage, they would want nothing to do with their God or their lifestyle of "service to others", or "submission to one another", or "Godliness"! Husbands: If you are driven, neglectful, harsh, critical, competative, "righteous", controlling, unhelpful, unhumble, unfaithful, unforgiving, resentful or angry, or are withholding yourself in ANY WAY from your Bride... STOP IT !!! For the love of God, just STOP !!! Your non Christian friends, family, neighbors, coworkers, and ESPECIALLY your children... are WATCHING you, and your God is DEPENDING on you to represent Him, at the VERY LEAST, in your marriage, to your Bride. Wives: If you are materialistic, discontent, un"happy", complaining, combative, argumentative, unhelpful, unsupportive, unfaithful, unforgiving, resentful, rebellious, or are withholding yourself in ANY WAY from your man... STOP IT !!! For the love of God, just STOP !!! Your non Christian friends, family, neighbors, coworkers, and ESPECIALLY your children... are WATCHING you, and your God is DEPENDING on you to represent Him, at the VERY LEAST, in your marriage, to your husband. I don't care how much disappointment, dishonesty, disrespect, dishonor or disloyalty you may have to endure, It's Gods will that we indeed, endure to the end. Sincerely, Jeff

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