Yesterday I wrote about The power of owning your stuff. Today I want to look at the consequences of not owning your issues, problems, hang-ups, sins, and so on.
When you fail to own your stuff, others see it as an indication they should do something. One common response is trying to force the person to deal with things. Another is distance ourselves from the person, or at least areas where they have things they need to deal with.
When you take responsibly for your stuff you show a willingness to work on it, and you generally get a period of grace. When you deny your stuff, or deny how bad it is, you get anger, resentment, and attempts to force a change.
Once you have abdicated responsibility for your stuff, you lose control. Don’t blame your bride, or others, if they step in to fill the vacuum.