A few months ago, I mentioned to a friend at church that I was too busy. Before he could (rightly) chasten me, I told him I was aware of this and working to change it. Since then he asks me about every other time he sees me if I am still busy.
Another friend knows I am working on a book, and have struggled to make the time write. He regularly asks me how the writing is going.
I deeply appreciate these brothers, and others like them, who hear what is happening in my life and make efforts to check up on me and to hold me accountable. If I were working on something specific in my marriage, I would share it with a man like this knowing he was going to check up on me. I want that kind of accountability.
What about you – do you have accountability? If you don’t, I think you are in a dangerous place. I’m not talking about someone who controls your life, but about a true friend who cares enough to ask you the questions you need to be asked. Someone who will cut through the bull if you try to serve up excuses. Men like this make us better men, better fathers, and better husbands. We can all use more of that, so if you don’t have it, look for it.