Those of us in the States have to file our tax returns, or an extension, by midnight Tuesday (two days later than usual because the 15th is on a Sunday and the 16th is a holiday in the District of Columbia). Are you madly looking for documents and blaming your wife for what you can’t find as you try to meet the deadline? Will you be doing your taxes after you get home from work on Tuesday?
Whether you do your taxes last moment, finished them three months ago, or have someone do them for you is not what I want to address here. Do you and your bride work well together on financial things? Do you work together, or does one of you do it with the other having no clue what’s going on?
Some say headship means the man should handle all the finances. Others say as head he can delegate it to his wife if she is better at such things. Some say whoever is better should do it, and the other should let them. Regardless of who does the heavy lifting, it is vital for both husband and wife be aware what is happening with the finances. You both should know how much is coming in, how much debt you have, and where all the money is going. Money is one of the major causes of stress in marriages, and the more you both know about your money the fewer problems it will cause you long-term. Sure, hiding bad news might save you some hassle now, but when it comes to light it’s even worse.
If you don’t have a clear picture of where the money goes, I suggest you track it for a month. I mean every last penny. Then put it all on one page, broken down into categories like house, utilities, car, gas, eating out, credit card payments, entertainment, giving, food, and so on. Sit down with your bride and look at where your money is going. Do you like what you see? If not, how can you change it?
Along these lines, I’ve mentioned my bride and I have been facilitating Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University for some folks in our town. I highly recommend the class – find one near you here or attend on-line. Or, if you want the basics on your schedule, get The Total Money Makeover: A Proven Plan for Financial Fitness book. I’ve also heard good things about Crown Financial Ministries from people I trust. Regardless of how, find a way to get a good, joint, handle on your finances – your marriage will benefit from it greatly!
Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
Black and Married with Kids
The Generous Wife
How Inconvenient!: My bride beat me to this one. Are you willing to be inconvenienced?
Seriously Folks …: I’m sharing this to prove I’m a good sport. (At least she didn’t share the video!)
Make a 21 Days Book: A twist on the idea I shared a while ago.
Happily Married After
Why You Should Have Sex At Least Once Per Week: He makes a good argument here.
3 Guaranteed Ways to Bring Passion Back Into the Bedroom: These are the kind of things that really can do that.
Hot, Holy and Humorous
Creating an Intimacy Timeline: Aside from appealing to my inner geek, this is a great idea!
Intimacy in Marriage
Painful Sex: What You Need to Know: If you wanted to send your bride to my article on pain during sex but did not because she won’t read something written by a man, here’s good advice from Julie.
My Spouse Needs Me to Fight Fair : Other than not having my favourite (Always fight naked) it’s a good list!
Hold On: My prayers are with Erin and Matt as they deal with the loss of their unborn child.
One Flesh Marriage
Romantic Act of the Day
A Scent of Romance: Been too long since I mentioned this – thanks Rich!
The Romantic Vineyard
The Titanic: A Lesson For Marriage: Very good post.
14 ways to ruin sex … guaranteed: #12 – really?
The Stupendous Marriage Show 40: Still pumping out a great podcast on marriage and sex.
Winning at Romance
45 Ways to Be a Kind and Generous Lover: A great list, read it more than once!