NOTE: Stats and graphs updated Oct 19th 2012.
Time for the results of the survey on oral sex. We had 309 women and 759 men answer. How much does this survey reflect the real world? The vast majority who answered are married followers of Jesus. I think it is also safe to say the vast majority are sex positive Christians – only 4.2% of the ladies and 0.1% of the men thought oral sex was morally wrong. With that in mind…
Ladies thoughts on doing their husband orally:
- The majority of women say they like to performing oral sex on their husband. 50% said they enjoy it because he does. 41% really like it and get turned on doing it, and 16% say they love it and it drives them wild to do it. Don’t feel bad asking, she may be very happy to do it.
- 17% don’t like it, but do it “for him”. Nothing wrong with that, but if this is your bride limit how often she does it and let her know how much it blesses you.
- The biggest problem was ejaculation, with just over a quarter saying they like it except for that part. Ask her to start orally and finish some other way.
- 9% complained that their guy want them to finish him orally when they would rather have intercourse and 8% are afraid if they do it, hubby will want nothing else. Let her know you like it, but it’s not the only thing you like.
- 7% are can’t tell if he is enjoying it, 8% are afraid they can’t do it right, and 8% feel stupid when the do it. Show your appreciation!
- 4% say it brings up bad memories. Time may change this, but pushing for her to try it will only make it worse.
- 7% think it would be okay if he washed first. REALLY guys? Come on!
- 11% think it’s gross. I wonder how many of those also said they don’t like ejaculation or their guy does not wash? If she says it’s gross, ask if there is a way you could make it less gross.
- 36% like how excited their husband gets by doing it. She enjoys you enjoying it – and it probably makes her feel less selfish about it. If you like it, let her know how much you like it!
- 36% like it as foreplay, but would rather finish with intercourse. Most women like intercourse (Even among those who never climax that way, most feel a need for it.) If you want to do oral on her, make it clear it’s her choice how things end.
- 25% are only open to it if they just showered, 17% can’t understand why he is willing to do it, and 8% say they feel gross when he does it. This is a major block to women accepting oral sex, and to enjoying it if they do accept it. Work to convince her that you do not find it gross, but actually enjoy it (see the men’s stats below for help with that.)
- 18% said it was their favourite sex act. You need to know if your bride is one of these, and if she is make oral part of almost every sex act.
- 13% like to climax orally if he finishes before she does during intercourse. Don’t make her ask, go for it.
- 10% say they don’t get it nearly as often as they would like. So ask your bride if she wants a bit more oral, or a lot more oral.
- 11% enjoy oral, but can’t climax from from it. If she can’t get there that way, give her some pleasure then move on. Don’t make it a point of pride!
- 8% said it’s the only sure way they can climax, and 4% said it’s the only way they can climax at all. If this is your bride, give her what she needs!
- 45% of men love the smell/taste, and another 34% like it. That means 79% of men ENJOY how a woman’s genitals taste and smell. What’s more, only 4% said they dislike the smell/taste.
- 68% of men say doing it turns them on. Only 2% said they do it but don’t like it. So it’s not “just for her” – he enjoys it.
- 14% want to try, but are told no.
- 10% would like to do it to orgasm, but she says no. Only 6% like to do it but don’t want to finish her that way. Ladies, don’t feel selfish, he wants to!
- 40% want it more often. But keep reading.
- 31% don’t care if she swallows or not, and 27% would like it but it’s not important to them, and 4% don’t want her to swallow. That’s two thirds who are fine with you not swallowing. Only 8% said swallowing was important to them.
- 23% want it only for foreplay, preferring to finish with intercourse. Conversely, only 11% say it’s their favourite sex act. Ladies, a few men may only want oral, but they are the minority.
- 23% get oral sex, but not to climax.
- 21% say they enjoy how excited she gets doing it. 15% feel she is just going through the motions. Attitude is a part of oral sex.
- 14% say that her not doing it is a minor problem for their sex life, while 5% say it’s a major problem. However, this is more than half of those not getting it, so for those being told no it’s an issue.
- 8% worry they are using their wife when she does oral. Ladies, don’t do it if you feel used, and let him know you would not if you did.