Yesterday I talked about the importance of being emotionally, mental, spiritually, and physically healthy, and how you cannot be the husband your bride deserves if you are not healthy in all those ways. Of course, the same is true for her; she cannot be the wife you want and deserve if she is not healthy in all those same ways. Moreover, the odds are she is even further from where she should be than you are. Many women have bought into the lie they are supposed to sacrifice 24/7, and always be the one who goes without. I suspect this is a combination of how their minds work (they are usually more natural caregivers) and what society (and the church) puts on them. Regardless of why, if she is too prone to ignoring her needs you need to help her.
Helping her take better care of herself can be tricky. She may feel guilty about doing things for herself, or taking time for herself. If time or money are tight, she may always put herself last and feel she is robbing others if she does otherwise. You may have to be a bit pushy, and may even have to risk making her a bit upset with you, just to get her to do something for her or take some time for herself. Trust me, it will be worth it, and after you do it a few times, she will be less likely to fight you.
Even if your bride is all for this, she may need your help to make it happen as often as it should. It is also possible she is good about this much of the time, but loses track when she is stressed or busy. Try to be an “outside check” for her, nudging her when she needs some down time or play time.
Finally, be aware her cycle can have a big influence on her need to care for herself. Learn when in her cycle she is most likely to need something, and be ready to help or get out of the way as appropriate.