Yesterday in The Losada Line in Marriage I talked about the importance of three positives for every negative. While I am not aware of any research looking at the Losada Line in sexual relationships, there is no reason to think it does not apply. This would mean keeping a couple’s sex live healthy and happy requires three “good” for every “bad” in terms of sex. That could look like:
- Not being told “no” more than one time in four.
- The woman having an orgasm at least three times in four.
- Doing something for your spouse you don’t really enjoy would happen no more than once ever forth time.