My bride and I are coming up on fifteen years of on-line marriage ministry this fall. When we started, there were very few folks taking about marriage on-line, and fewer doing it from a Christian perspective. There were plenty of folks talking about sex on-line, but almost none doing it from a Christian perspective! I suppose so few choices helped us gather an audience, but it was not good for those looking for help, hints, suggestions, and information about marriage and sexuality compatible with a Christian world-view. I have always felt many voices are better; each person is more likely to find someone who speaks to them, and when one voice is off (it happens) there are other voices to show a better way.
This is why I love the Christian Marriage Bloggers Association so much. I have met some great folks, and found some great blogs I had never heard of. I have people of like mind to discuss things with, to rely on when I am unsure, and to uphold me in prayer. These people have experiences I have not had, and known things I do not know, enriching my readers and me. I especially like knowing members of the CMBA are reading what I write, and will speak up if they feel I have said something I should not have said – or just look like I might be drifting. We all need accountability, and the CMBA is that for me, and for its other members.
I encourage you to click the link above. Look for those who are blogging about something dear to you, or in an area where you need help, and check them out.
Now a favour – I want to strongly urge you to do something to encourage those you enjoy reading. Most of the CMBA members are not making money – in fact, many of them are spending money for the privilege of ministering. I can also tell you it is not as easy as it looks. Sure, anyone can turn out a few great posts, but doing it week after week is difficult. I know many would like to post more often, but cannot find the time to do so. Beyond writing and finding images, there are comments to clear (after removing the hordes of spam), and the emails begging for help (not to mention the ones telling you are wrong and going to hell if you keep it up). Those who stick with marriage blogging are doing it because they have a desire to minster – nothing else could motivate someone to keep posting.
How can you encourage bloggers?
- Comment. A short “Way to go” is encouraging, while something more substantive can help others and/or become the basis for another post.
- Send them an email thanking them for what they do. Mentioning something specific that you liked, or that improved your marriage is especially good.
- Share links with your friends, including on facebook and twitter.
- Click on their affiliate links, and buy if you like the product. No one is getting rich this way, but some are covering their cost or even making a bit.
- If they take donations (most do not) send them something. Even a one-off $5 or $10 donation says a great deal – it says you care enough about what they are doing to go to the trouble of makeing a donation.
- If they have an amazon wish list, buy them a book.
- If they have published a book, and it looks like it would be of use to you, buy it. If it is good, give it a strong review, and share links so others can buy it and be helped too.
- Pray for them. Marriage ministry is a struggle, in many ways, including spiritually. Having gotten to know folks “behind the scenes” on the CMBA I know readers are not hearing about most of the struggles confronting marriage bloggers.
- I’m not fishing here – I really would like you to bless some other blogger today – they need it!
By the way: While my bride and I are honoured to be a part of the “core team” of the CMBA, this is not “our baby”. We are so thankful God put this on the hearts of others, and that they were obedient to the call.
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