I am convinced control is a major problem in many marriages. One or both spouses feels less in control than they would like, resulting in them doing all kinds of odd, rude, destructive, and just plain crazy things. We do things to try to get control; we do things to try to keep our spouse from having control; we do things because we are upset about not being in control.
This is, of course, basic human nature. We. Want. To. Be In. Control! Every parent of a child older than a few of months weeks hours knows they want some control over their life. Increasingly common eating disorders are about being in control. I think a fair amount of promiscuity is about control, and having or proving one is in control is a reason for many of the wrong/stupid things adolescents do. Even the original sin was all about wanting to be in control.
I understand the desire to be in control – I feel it just like everyone else. However, I have learned this desire tends to result in far more bad than good, and can make a marriage less happy, or miserable, or tear it apart. I am not sure I can make a solid biblical claim wanting to be in control is sin, but a great deal of what flows from the desire is ugly and has nothing to do with being godly.
I am going to rant about pontificate on control for a few days. Before I get started, why not think about control in your life, and in particular in your marriage. Where do you have it, where do you not? Where do you want more control? What does your lack of control cause you to do?