Often my bride will say to me, or I will say to her “Thank you for not ______” where the blank is something we see someone we know on-line or in real life doing (usually doing to their spouse).
Maybe this is just a occupational hazard, but I think we did it even before we were doing any marriage ministry. I think it is far better than the opposite – saying, “Why can’t you be more like _______”, and it is a form of compliment.
Next time you see some wife doing her husband wrong, use it as an opportunity to thank your wife. (Just make sure no one else hears!) Also use it as an opportunity to put in perspective the things she does that bother you!