Sharing the good stuff makes it even better

September 27, 2012

in Communication, Encouragement, Good Marriage, Gratitude, Links to good stuff

Sharing positive experiences with your spouse will make you happier, especially if your spouse gives you a good response to what you share.

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This is not just conjecture; there are supporting it. Nathaniel M. Lambert, Ph.D. decided to dig into the correlations several studies found between sharing good experiences and feeling good. He designed a series of studies to determine if there was any cause and effect, and if so which way it went. Full details can be found in his paper A boost of positive effect: The perks of sharing positive and grateful experiences (DOC download), here are the highlights:

  • “Sharing a positive experience caused an increase in positive emotion” and “sharing positive news caused more positive emotion than simply thinking about the positive news.”
  • Those “who had shared their grateful experiences with a partner reported significantly more positive effect, satisfaction with life, and more happiness” than control groups.
  • How a “relationship partner” (mostly dating in the study) reacts to a good experience can increase or decrees positive emotion resulting from sharing the experience.

The bottom lines:

  • Sharing with your bride the good things that happen to you will make you feel even happier.
  • When your bride shares with you good things that have happened to her, you can increase her happiness by responding enthusiastically.

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Blog Challenge: Starting October 1st, I will be participating in the Christian Marriage Bloggers Association’s 13-day blog challenge. Given I blog daily, this is not actually a challenge for me, but I will be adding my posts to the official list, which is likely to increase comments on my blog. I will also be doing more commenting on the blogs of those participating. The real news here is that there should be many great marriage posts the first half of October!

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