It is rare for me to get depressed or overwhelmed, but when I do, my perception becomes a horrible reality in my mind.
My bride, God bless her, always tries to counter this by showing me things are not all doom and gloom. She ties to show me another perspective, along with solutions and choices. IT IS DEEPLY ANNOYING in the moment, but very helpful and I greatly appreciate it. (Just don’t tell her I said so!)
While it is true our perception does frame our reality, we do not have to be slaves to it. We can think and reason. We can examine other possibilities. We can try looking at things from a different perception. Doing this on our own is difficult because we are stuck in the reality of our perception. A loving, trusted spouse can help, offering a different perspective for our consideration. You can do this for your bride, if she knows she can trust you, and she can do it for you if you trust her and allow her to help. Yes, it can be annoying, but the results can be far better than not doing it.