What IS the definition of “awesome husband”, then?
Seems like a goal should have something that is measurable & achievable about it, yes? ~ Comment from “quercus”
Absolutely true! How about a few synonyms for awesome: amazing, astonishing, astounding, eye-opening, fabulous, marvellous, staggering, stunning, stupendous. Of course, we know what “husband” means. But, what does “awesome husband” mean? To me it means well above the norm, far better than most. You are not just a good or generous husband; you are a couple of notches above the rest of the pack. If you are awesome, you are doing a better job of loving your wife than most husbands. You are more generous, more courteous, and more aware of her wants and needs than most husbands are. Sure, you make mistakes; you have moments of selfishness, cluelessness, and total brain failure, but those moments are the exception, not the norm. You are the guy women have in mind when they think, “why can’t my husband be more like him?”
What exactly does it look like to be awesome? That will vary from couple to couple to some degree. While certain things are critical for almost all women, the order in which they need those things, their relative importance, will vary from woman to woman. Over the next months, I will be writing about the general needs of most wives, and I will work to help you figure out what is most important to your bride.
I’m going to let you in on a sad secret: The norm for husbands is so poor that being above average is not nearly the challenge it should be. To paraphrase something I heard years ago, the temperature of the average husband is so low normal husbands are accused of having a fever. I suppose this is good news for those trying to be awesome, as it means the early goals are more easily obtained. On the other hand, don’t give in to the temptation to stop at better than the norm – keep going for awesome.