What would you say if I told you having sex daily could add four years to your life… and twice a day could add eight years? What if your wife could get similar benefits from more and better orgasms?
All you want now is proof, right? Especially proof to convince your wife it is for her health!
Dr. Michael Roizen, MD., chairman of the Cleveland Clinic’s Wellness Institute, began to make news with claims like this half a decade ago. Is there proof he’s right? Sort of. No one has done a study giving results as clear as what Roizen is saying, but a growing number of studies have shown a good and frequent sex life correlates with longer life and with being healthier longer. In fact, virtually every well done longevity study shows quantity and/or quality of orgasm are sure ways to be healthier, look younger, and live longer. A ten-year study done by Queens University in Belfast found men who have two or more orgasms a week had half the death rate of men who had less than one orgasm a month. The Duke Longitudinal Studies done from 1975 to 1984 found “Frequency of intercourse was a significant predictor of longevity for men”. For women frequency of intercourse was not as strongly correlated with longevity, but historic enjoyment of intercourse was correlated with a longer life. Other studies have shown more sex results in looking younger, experiencing less pain, lower levels of a variety of diseases, and on and on. There are some poorly done studies about this, but many are very well done with good controls. There is something to this.
Let me summarise what I see from reading a great many of these studies over the last few years.
- Having more orgasms means better health and longer life, especially for men.
- Having more great orgasms means better health and longer life for women.
- Solo sex has some limited benefits, but sex with a partner is far better for you.
- The act of intercourse seems to be beneficial beyond just having an orgasm.
- While it is usually buried deep in studies, if mentioned at all, it is clear monogamous heterosexuality is healthier than any other option.
- You don’t have to start having a lot of sex when you are young for it to matter – in fact, those who have a lot of sex in their 20’s and 30’s but then slow down show little or no longevity benefit. On the other hand, those who start having a lot of sex later in life do show significant health and longevity benefits. What you do from 50 on is probably more critical than all the years before 50 combined.
In the next ten to fifteen years, I expect we will have solid scientific proof these things are true. We will probably also have some very good ideas why they are true and much of it will be about the hormones and other chemicals sex produces in our bodies.
How do you convince your wife daily sex is all I have said here? Sorry, I do not have a magic answer. The evidence is growing, but if she has reasons to want to avoid sex, or only have it occasionally, I doubt it will matter to her. We tend to ignore or dismiss facts that conflict with what we want to do. On the other hand, if one or both of you have put sex on the back burner for ANY reason, this should be a wakeup call for you. It is not far off to say the closest thing we have to a fountain of youth is found in our marriage beds.
Can I get your help with a survey? This is for anyone who thinks they might initiate a divorce in the next 18 months. Completely anonymous, and the information might help others. Thanks!