“I call heaven and earth to witness against you today, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and curse. Therefore choose life…” [Deut 30:19a]
It seems that God is big on choice. God gives clear choices, and He holds us accountable for what we choose. What’s more, His choices do not leave us an opt out option; not choosing is in fact a choice, and usually it is not the wise choice.
Much of life is this way; clear choices, with only one that is sane. Marriage is often this way – either we choose the right and good, or we and our spouse both suffer. There are times where there are more choices than we are offered (see here for more on that) but sometimes it’s a simple as A or B, and if you don’t choose A you will get B.
If you are given to being passive, to letting life happen around you, please realise that you are often making choices by not choosing. Do not blame others when you get stuck with the default.
If your wife is given to being passive, do all you can to help her. When you give her a choice, make it clear and simple. If there is a default that will happen if she does not choose, make that clear to her.
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Great tweet of the week:
Dare to love wastefully. (Is there any other choice?) @AskLaurieWatson
Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
Featured Post – A must read article I saw this week:
Julie at Intimacy in Marriage posted “Wish You Could Speak to My Wife Before I Leave” ◄ “I vowed monogamy when I got married, and she gave me celibacy.” I don’t usually point to article for you to show your wife, but if you are on the verge of leaving over sex, you should consider pointing your wife to this.
Black and Married with Kids
Do You Have S.M.A.R.T. Marriage Goals for 2013? ◄ This well-known acronym is indeed a smart way to set goals.
The Generous Wife
Walking in the Word ◄ Do some Bible study together.
Generous Choices ◄ A win/win.
Is He Your Valentine? ◄ Make that she – but the point is V-day is on the way!
Men Friends ◄ Or Women friends. Should you?
Hot, Holy and Humorous
11 Reasons I Love My Sexy Husband ◄ You can pick up some good hints here.
Journey to Surrender
Feeling Entitled Weakens Your Marriage ◄ This is so true!
Winds of Change: A Husband’s Profound Influence on Her Sex Drive ◄ You cannot change her, but you can nudge her in the right direction.
Mr. Muscle’s Courage ◄ Learn what a woman sees as courage in a man.
Redeeming Marriages with Jack and Janet
Moving Beyond Ordinary ◄ Another choice. (BTW, I’ve just started the book.)
The Romantic Vineyard
On Thoughtfulness ◄ “When was the last time you did something thoughtful for your spouse?”