I know many men see Valentine’s Day as something created to get men in trouble – and sadly, that seems to be the case for some.
It does seem that Valentine’s has become defined by women for the most part. Some would say men failed to pay attention and let women define it, while others would say no one is listening to what men think it should be. Some men have just given up, and are focusing instead on a male created holiday a month later that is known as “Steak and BJ day” (yes, really). Sure, it would be nice if all the ladies read Scott’s suggestion that they Turn This Valentine’s Day Around, but since I am talking primarily to men here…
I would start by asking you if this is a hill you want to die on. Even if she is being unfair, is this a wise battle? If you want to fight this battle, you will be in a much better place to do it after you have given her a great Valentine’s or made your best effort and been told you failed. Beyond all of that, maybe this is one of those times when you should keep silently reminding yourself “I am doing this because I love her” as you work to bless her. Please also consider the things your wife has been taught to think about Valentines, and what you not seeming to care about it means about your feelings about her. If she buys those lies, your downplaying Valentine’s could send her a message you do not mean and do not want to send!
It is your call, of course; just think and pray about it, and do what feels right. If you decide that you should do something other than abstain, you may benefit from my posts next week.
If you want to shop on-line for Valentine’s Day, time is running short. Below are some links, most of which will earn me a few pennies if you use them and buy something.
- Amazon.com (you can find all kinds of things, including sex toys)
- American Greetings
- Bath and Bodyworks
- Gift Tree
- My MMs (custom M&Ms)
- Newegg (They actually have a lot of nice jewellery at good prices)
- Sees Candy
- Victoria’s Secret Gift Card (this page is free of women in lingerie, the rest of the site is not)
- World Jewels