I know many men see Valentine’s Day as something created to get men in trouble – and sadly, for some it’s little more than a trap to try to avoid.
It does seem Valentine’s has become defined by women for the most part. Some would say men failed to pay attention and let women define it, while others would say no one is listening to what men think it should be. Some men have just given up, and are focusing instead on a male created holiday a month later known as “Steak and BJ day” (yes, really). Sure, it would be nice if all the ladies read Scott’s suggestion to Turn This Valentine’s Day Around, but since I am talking primarily to men here…
I’d start by asking you if this is a hill you want to die on. Even if she’s being unfair, is this a wise battle? If you want to fight this battle, you’ll be in a much better place to do it after you have given her a great Valentine’s, or made your best effort and have been told you failed. Maybe this is one of those times you should keep silently reminding yourself “I’m doing this because I love her” as you work to bless her. Please also consider the things your wife has been taught to think about Valentines, and what your not seeming to care about it may communicate to her. If she buys those lies, your downplaying Valentine’s could send her a false message you don’t want to send!
It’s your call, of course; just think and pray about it, and do what feels right. If you decide you should do something other than abstain from Valentine’s, you may benefit from my posts next week.
If you want to shop on-line for Valentine’s Day, time is running short. Below are some links, most of which will earn me a few pennies if you use them and buy something.
- Amazon.com (you can find all kinds of things, including sex toys)
- American Greetings
- Bath and Bodyworks
- Gift Tree
- My MMs (custom M&Ms)
- Newegg (They actually have a lot of nice jewellery at good prices)
- Sees Candy
- Victoria’s Secret Gift Card (this page is free of women in lingerie, the rest of the site is not)
- World Jewels