On Saturday I commented that many men feel not having sex on Valentine’s Day is a bad commentary on how their wife feels about their marriage. I had a couple of private comments to me that this only matters when sex is happening less often than desired; if you can have it pretty much any time you want it, then it really does not matter if it does or does not happen on any specific day.
I think the same is true for much of what women seem to “expect” on special days like Valentine’s. Sure, there is a romantic value to something extra on special days, and if a woman is romantically inclined then she will want some things for that reason. However, if a woman is getting all the romance, flowers, quality time, touch, and so on that she needs, getting those things on Valentine’s Day won’t be nearly as important to her as for a woman who feels neglected most of the time.
In other words, if your wife makes a huge deal out of Valentine’s Day, maybe it is an indication that she feels neglected the other 364.25 days of the year. No, that is not the only explanation but it is one you should not ignore. If she feels cheated by not getting something for Valentine’s, ask yourself if you should be doing more of that for her in general.