Earlier this week when my bride and I were in town, we went to a movie. When we purchased out tickets we were told we had “earned” a free drink and popcorn on our rewards card. The movie was about to start, so we agreed I would buy the goodies and Lori would secure seats in the theatre.
It was afternoon, and there was no one in line at the concession stand. I had two people ready to help me; a well-endowed gal in a low-cut top, and a fellow who looked bored. I went to the fellow.
Could I have gone to the young lady showing huge amounts of cleavage and not sinned? Yes, I could have. Had there been a line at the other register I would have. So why did I choose to avoid her? First, I prefer not being exposed to cleavage other than that of my lovely bride. Second, I was a bit annoyed this young lady was a walking invitation to lust. I doubt she knew or intend it; even those women who “get it” tend to under-estimate the effect they can have. However, she had chosen to dress so as to show a great deal of her breasts (other female employees were much more covered, so this was not a matter of a uniform; it was her choice). She made a choice, and I made a choice.
The main point here is LUST IS A CHOICE. I’m not talking about the initial reaction we have when we see too much skin – we cannot control that because the reaction happens before our conscious mind has the chance to recognise the situation and make a choice. When I say lust is a choice, I mean what happens after we are aware of what we are seeing and able to make choices.
Where is the line? If you can’t go to the cleavage-showing cashier without looking at her cleavage, you are probably over the line. If you’re going to think about what she would look like wearing even less, or what it would be like to be with her in any way, you are definitely over the line. If you have a choice of cashiers and choose the one showing the most cleavage, you are at the very least willing to flirt with the line.
You will receive a number of invitations to lust next week. Some will be minor, some will be blatant. Each invitation gives you a choice – what do you want your choice to be?
A word to the ladies: You will see here I am putting the choice to lust on the men. However, an invitation to lust is a choice women make. At best such an invitation is unloving, at worst it is being a source of temptation, and Jesus said it is better to have a millstone hung around your neck and be thrown into the sea than to be that person. We all have choices, and the bad choice of one person does not excuse, justify, or negate the bad choice of another.