Are you having empty sex? Are you getting all that God intended, or just a small part?
Our society has made sex all about bodies and the sensations that sex gives our bodies. It is all about the physical pleasure; more physical pleasure means it is great sex, too little physical pleasure means it is poor sex. Personally, I think we have bought into a big fat lie!
I am not opposed to the physical pleasure of sex – on the contrary, I like it a great deal and have written a good bit aimed to help couples have greater physical pleasure when they have sex. However, there is a lot more to sex than what our bodies feel, and a lot more to enjoy about sex than the physical pleasure. Sex connects a husband and wife in a way that nothing else can. Sex bonds us, makes us feel close, helps us get past minor problems, and makes our love deeper. We can have all of those and the physical pleasure, but if we get too focused on the physical we hamper and/or miss much of the rest.
If I had to give up the physical pleasure or the other pleasures, I would choose to keep the rest and lose the physical. What’s more, I do not think that would reduce my desire to have sex in the least. As much as I would miss physical pleasure, I would miss the other things far more. If you think I am crazy, maybe there is more to sex than you have experienced.
As to the physical pleasure, do not think it is all about orgasm. Yes, that is the peak, but there is a great deal more physical pleasure to be had. Learn to feel pleasure from start to finish, and learn that much of that pleasure is felt with part of the body other than the penis. Be aware of every sensation, every nuance, and learn to enjoy all of them.
Can I get your help with a survey? This quick survey asks women and men if they have ever faked orgasm with their spouse. (Yes, men fake.)