Being who God made her to be – are you helping or hindering?

February 24, 2013

in 2013 Awesome Husband, Beyond the Marriage, Encouragement, Good Marriage, Her Needs, YOU4HER

God created us all to be unique people. That does not just mean we are all different, it means we are all called to live a unique life. If your life looks just like the life of someone else, at least one of you is not living the life God intended.

What about your dear wife? Is she living the life God created her to live? Is she doing the things He intended her to do? Is she meeting, helping, empowering, and blessing the people God wants her to touch?

Many directions © Kittikun Atsawintarangkul | and © kibsri |

The short answer is no, as none of us has it just right. The longer answer might be that she is close to where He intended, or that she is not even close enough to see clearly what He has for her.

My question to you is what are you doing to help her be who God intended, and do what God called her to do? Besides that, what are you doing to hinder her following God’s plan for her life? As her husband, you have great power to help and hinder. You also have a special responsibility; being her head means God expects you to help her find His path, and motivate her to follow that.

Women seem especially prone to the idea that they are worthless people with no special calling from God. There are plenty of voices out there telling women that, and not nearly enough calling that a lie. Especially during the baby and toddler raising years it is difficult for a woman see beyond those vital but not so earth shattering tasks. All too often, a woman does not even think about her calling beyond being a mother until she is much older. Then she has to play catch up, or she decides she has missed it and does not even try.

Regardless of where your bride is in life, know that God has more for her. It is your responsibility before God to help her not only know that, but also to find His path for her life. Encourage her in every way possible. Be ready to sacrifice to help her do what she is called to do. Please be very sure you are not guilty of standing in her way. I suspect God will have to judge many men for being an obstacle to what He called their wives to do and be.

Image Credit © Kittikun Atsawintarangkul | and © kibsri |

Great tweet of the week:

While it may be impossible to forget something you forgive, it’s wrong to keep using it against yr spouse. @mrgwrks

Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:

Black and Married with Kids

Marriage is Under Attack: Is it Even Worth Fighting For? | ◄ I agree with the author – it is time to go to war!

The Generous Wife

Sweet Melodies ◄ Share some tunes!
About Communication ◄ How are you at listening?

Intimacy in Marriage

5 Ways to Be Sexually Playful While Clothed ◄ A good post to share with your bride.
Why You Need Sexual Core Values ◄ How do your sexual core values line up with those of your spouse?

Marriage Life

Personal Responsibility ◄ Forget excuses, take responsibility.
Do You Have an In-Law Allergy? ◄ Why it matters how we treat her parents.


“She just doesn’t get it!” – and other things we husbands exclaim about sex. ◄ And what you should and should not do about it.

One Flesh Marriage

That Still Hurts ◄ Your spouse can’t change the past, don’t expect them to. Instead, deal with the past.

…to Love Honor and Vacuum

Praying the Right Thing for Your Husband ◄ A nice counter point to my post for today.


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