Being Who God Made Her to Be – Are You Helping or Hindering?

February 24, 2013

in 2013 Awesome Husband, Beyond the Marriage, Encouragement, Good Marriage, Headship/Submission, Her Needs, YOU4HER

God created us all to be unique people. That doesn’t just mean we’re all different, it means we’re each called to live a unique life. If your life looks just like the life of someone else, at least one of you is not living the life God intended.

What about your dear wife? Is she living the life God created her to live? Is she doing the things He intended her to do? Is she meeting, helping, empowering, and blessing the people God wants her to touch?

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The short answer is no, as none of us has it just right. The longer answer might be she is close to what He intended, or perhaps she’s not even close enough to see what He has for her.

My question to you is what are you doing to help her be who God intended, and do what God called her to do? On the other side, are you in any way hindering her from following God’s plan for her life? As her husband you have great power to help or hinder. You also have a special responsibility; being her head means God expects you to help her find His path, and motivate her to follow it.

Women seem especially prone to the idea they are worthless people with no special calling from God. There are plenty of voices out there telling women that, and not nearly enough calling it a lie. Especially during the baby and toddler raising years, it’s difficult for women to see beyond the vital but not so earth shattering tasks of caring for kids. All too often, a woman doesn’t even think about her calling beyond being a mother until she’s much older. Then she has to play catch up, or she decides she missed it and doesn’t even try.

Regardless of where your bride is in life, know God has more for her. It’s your responsibility before God to help her not only know that, but also find His path for her life. Encourage her in every way possible. Be ready to sacrifice to help her do what she’s called to do. Please be very sure you’re not guilty of standing in her way. I suspect God will have judge many men for being an obstacle to what He called their wives to do and be.

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Great tweet of the week:

While it may be impossible to forget something you forgive, it’s wrong to keep using it against yr spouse. @mrgwrks

Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:

Black and Married with Kids

Marriage is Under Attack: Is it Even Worth Fighting For? | ◄ I agree with the author – it is time to go to war!

The Generous Wife

Sweet Melodies ◄ Share some tunes!
About Communication ◄ How are you at listening?

Intimacy in Marriage

5 Ways to Be Sexually Playful While Clothed ◄ A good post to share with your bride.
Why You Need Sexual Core Values ◄ How do your sexual core values line up with those of your spouse?

Marriage Life

Personal Responsibility ◄ Forget excuses, take responsibility.
Do You Have an In-Law Allergy? ◄ Why it matters how we treat her parents.


“She just doesn’t get it!” – and other things we husbands exclaim about sex. ◄ And what you should and should not do about it.

One Flesh Marriage

That Still Hurts ◄ Your spouse can’t change the past, don’t expect them to. Instead, deal with the past.

…to Love Honor and Vacuum

Praying the Right Thing for Your Husband ◄ A nice counter point to my post for today.


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