I’m addicted to things

March 3, 2013

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From time to time, our pastor has a lapse in sanity and asks me to do the generosity focus for our church. I really thought I was done after I did it in the voice of Peter Cook’s The Impressive Clergyman, but still he asks. This is how I started last Sunday.

“Hi my name is Paul.” (They know me well, so I got a round of “Hi Paul”.)

“I’m addicted to things. Big things, little things, sparkly things, beeping things … pretty much anythings.”

Tyranny of things  © Lcs813 | Dreamstime.com

Fortunately, it is an addiction I have started to fight. I doubt I will ever reach the less than 100 things level of minimalism (Do cables count as an item if they are connected to a computer? Can I count all the connected peripherals as part of the computer? Does WiFi count as connected?), but I want to have far fewer things. When we move again, I would like to be able to do it in a small U-haul.

It is not that things are inherently bad; they are not. However, things cost us, and they cost us more than we usually realise. We have to work to earn money to buy the things. Then we have to spend time and money to maintain the things. We have to have space for the things, which means a bigger house or a storage space, both of which cost more money. It adds up, and soon the cost of our things is well beyond what the things are worth. Aside from the money, there is the time worked to earn the money. We spend so much time earning money to obtain and keep our things we barely have time to use them. We rob our spouse, family, friends, and God of time so we can earn money for things and the upkeep of those things.

Once you get it, once you really see it, you start to have a very different view of things. It is not that you stop wanting things, but when you understand the true cost of things, you make different choices. When you realise that things steal time you could have with people, your view of things changes – or at least it should.

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8 comments
africord
africord

The capacity for generosity is fully defined by the investment we make or don't make for other things.  But I think the fundamental question that we avoid is why is that thing here?  Do I serve it, or do I use it serve God?  In addition minimizing acquisitions and disposing of "thing traps", I think we can also improve the leverage of things, by increasing the integration.  Yes, I own a home entertainment system, the audio portion is 15 years old, but it also serves as a tool for small group ministry by accessing content from the Internet and my home PC (4 years old).  I want to avoid "single taskers" more than I want to be a minimalist.

TheGenerousHusband
TheGenerousHusband

@africord Great thoughts. I don't see the number of things as important, but rather how well we use our things. Items that can be used for more than one task are certainly being better used.

africord
africord

The capacity for generosity is fully defined by the investment we make or don't make for other things.  But I think the fundamental question that we avoid is why is that thing here?  Do I serve it, or do I use it serve God?  In addition minimizing acquisitions and disposing of "thing traps", I think we can also improve the leverage of things, by increasing the integration.  Yes, I own a home entertainment system, the audio portion is 15 years old, but it also serves as a tool for small group ministry by accessing content from the Internet and my home PC (4 years old).  I want to avoid "single taskers" more than I want to be a minimalist. 

TheGenerousHusband
TheGenerousHusband moderator

 @africord Great thoughts. I don't see the number of things as important, but rather how well we use our things. Items that can be used for more than one task are certainly being better used.

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