Yesterday I talked about taking offence where none is intended. Seems some folks have made this their hobby. Some even do it on behalf of others. Still others seem to go out of their way to do it with their spouse.
Some use offence as a tool to manipulate and control. Being offended makes us feel superior, entitled, justified in our anger, or excused for withholding things from our spouse. When we learn to use offence in this way we start looking for offences, and if we can’t find an offence we may invent one.
Allow me to share a secret with you – being offended at your wife does not mean she has actually done anything wrong. Being offended at her does not make her wrong, nor does it make you right. What’s more, being offended doesn’t make you special, or powerful. If you use your being offended as a club to manipulate or control, it makes you a bully, not a victim.
If you are easily or often offended, it’s not about the people around you, it’s about you. Deal with it.