When I mentioned I was going to do must read marriage books, I got a number of suggestions. The suggestion I got most often was Emerson Eggerichs’ Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs.
Lori and I used the book as the basis for a marriage study group a number of years ago and it went very well. I’ve had people tell me this book saved their marriage, and others tell me it is what started them on the path to a better marriage. I’ve heard both men and women express excitement about the book. I agree the book can be a big help to most marriages; those in trouble as well as couples with good marriages who want great marriages.
The basic concept of the book is seen in the title – he’s looking for true respect while she’s looking for unconditional love. Eggerichs explains what these look like in real life, and shows couples how to move from the Crazy Cycle of conflict to the Energizing Cycle of change.
Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs
Other Must Read Marriage Books:
Love Does: Discover a Secretly Incredible Life in an Ordinary World
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman