I know the number one reason so many of us are frustrated by a lack of sex. It’s the primary root cause of wives saying no to sex, and a major reason a growing number of men are saying no.
The reason? We are too busy. We don’t have time for a regular, healthy sex life.
I know, you’re thinking you would drop anything and jump in bed if your wife were willing, right? Well almost anything… Well at least some of what you do when you’re home… When you’re home … which is not all that often…
Truth be told, I suspect most men are too busy to have as much sex as they’d like to have. Some of us got busy to help us forget about the sex we weren’t having, but regardless of why, we’re still too busy for a good sex life.
Then there’s the bigger problem of what business does to our wives sexuality. With a less demanding physical drive, women more easily lose track of how long it has been, making more difficult to move sex to the top of the priority list. Add to that the fact they need to connect emotionally to want or enjoy sex, and being too busy is a sure way to destroy both a woman’s desire for sex and her ability to enjoy it if she does do it.
Yes, a busy woman can have sex, and yes, we could argue biblically she should, but do we really want her to do it out of duty? Is her giving herself without desire and with no hope of enjoying it really what we want? Is it what God wants? Is it a sex life with a future?
There are, no doubt, a few women out there who can want and enjoy sex despite being too busy, but such women are rare. If you’d like more sex and your wife is busy, please connect the dots. Forget about all the other reasons and excuses, because “fixing” everything else and still being too busy is not going to do much to improve your sex life. On the other hand, if you make enough room in your life to relax a bit, all kinds of great things will happen, in and out of bed.
Bottom line: Don’t say “I would do anything for more sex” if you’re not willing to find a way for you, and your wife, to be less busy.