The other day, Lori asked her readers this question: “How honest are you with your husband? Do you leave out little things? Do you put quite a bit of spin on how you share with him? Do you lie?“
The same question is valid for husbands – are you being fully honest with your wife? As my bride points out, “little bits of dishonesty erode the level of intimacy and trust in your marriage”. And, yes, such eroding of intimacy includes sexuality.
Let me also comment on a common reason men give for withholding truth from their wife, “She can’t handle the truth.” More often than not, I think the real concern is he doesn’t want to have to handle the consequence of her knowing the truth. He doesn’t want her to be mad at him, or even worse disappointed with him, so he tells himself she can’t handle it. In similar fashion, men often hide the truth about financial problems with the excuse they’re protecting their wife from truth that would hurt her.
Are there women so fragile telling them the truth would destroy them? No doubt, such women exist, but they are rare. If your wife is such a woman, she needs a great deal of help, and you should be doing everything in your power to get her that help.
Bottom line: Stop blaming your wife for your dishonesty!