Got Lube?

May 4, 2013

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Do you use artificial lubricant during sex? If not, you should give it a try.

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Artificial lube isn’t just for women who don’t make enough natural lubricant to have sex without pain. Her tissues are very delicate, far more so than the skin of your penis; even if she seems plenty wet to you sex may be causing her some discomfort. She might not feel anything during sex (our brains tend to ignore pain during sex) but may be sore the next day. If she’s never willing to have sex two days in a row, this could be part of the reason.

Lubricant is especially likely to be needed in the following situations:

  • Using hormonal contraceptives
  • Pregnant
  • Nursing
  • Peri-menopause and menopause
  • You are wide
  • Positions that put more pressure on one part of her vagina (rear entry for example)
  • Prolonged intercourse
  • Very vigorous thrusting

You may be thinking she’d say something if she had any discomfort. Some women will, but some are too embarrassed, and some just accept it as part of sex. Why not discuss it? Alternatively, get some lube and then suggest trying it. By the way, lube can also be used for foreplay, and make sensations much better.

There are a great many lubes available, and ultimately it comes down to personal taste:

  • Water based, such as KY: Inexpensive and effective, but they tend to dry out and get sticky, especially if used for manual sex.
  • Wet flavoured: Water based lubricants with flavour added – great if there will be some oral sex.
  • Silicon based, such as Wet Platinum: Thinner, more slippery, and longer lasting than water based products. Particularly good for manual sex and prolonged intercourse. Costs more, but you will need less. (Note – can transfer in the wash and stain some fabrics, so don’t wash sheets or towels with other clothing.)
  • Astroglide: a unique water based product many people really like.
  • Coconut Oil: some folks absolutely rave about this stuff. It is a solid at room temperature, but melts to a liquid at skin temperature.

One final note, if your bride is given to yeast infections, avoid any lubricant containing glycerine.

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At old ages if self lubrication is not happening by nature, why did God allow it so. So is artificial lubrication acceptable Biblical? (I do not mean to say to have a hard/harsh/non smooth intercourse).

I just wish to hear something more positive Biblical points on this; I am also for, for being white haired rather dying it as you had mentioned in an earlier post.

BTW my wife feels bad about the oily trace (due to coconut oil) post intercourse. She is 35 now and had her uterus removed and the frequency of us having sex is very low (we live separate due to my job and meet once in a 20days/30day/40days/50days)

Moreover the climate also impact (we are in southern part of India)   


Last year, we moved from Astroglide to Good Clean Love, an organic product, and are very happy.


We use coconut oil all the time. We love it !!!!!   Like it was said in the post be very careful with lubes that have glycerin in it. We found out about it a long time ago.


Coconut oil for the win! My wife never wanted to use artificial lubricants at all, in part because many of them just didn't feel right to her or irritated her a bit. Once I read about coconut oil we talked it over and decided to give it a try. Now, she loves it. It's not only a great, natural, and very healthy lube, but it makes a wonderful massage oil too that is fabulous for the skin. Oh - and it's great for cooking too! 

TheGenerousHusband moderator

@victorrajh  To some degree changes in how we dress and wash have contributed to women having less natural lubrication. Beyond that, I suspect the use of saliva and food oils for sex has gone on for a very long time.


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