Sermon on the Mount – the Hard Stuff!

May 12, 2013

in Acts of Service, Links to good stuff, YOU4HER

This is the final post on applying the Sermon on the Mount to marriage – and this is the one that is so very difficult to do!

But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. And if anyone would sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well. And if anyone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles. Give to the one who begs from you, and do not refuse the one who would borrow from you.

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We know that Jesus was talking here about those who meant evil to the listener, but the ideas behind this should be applied to all, and most especially to our spouse! If we are to “love our enemy” how much more should be loving the women we married?

I don’t think the first bit says we should stand around and be abused physically. The Greek seems to indicate a slap, not a right cross. The point is not to jump to match any assault, and I would extend that to verbal assaults such as insults or groundless accusations. You may or may not need to deal with these things, but learn to respond rather than react.

The part about the tunic and cloak is a call to give more than you are required to give. This means giving your wife more than she expects, more than she has the right to expect, and even more than she “demands”. I realise this sounds like it could set a dangerous precedent, but Jesus did not seem to be worried about that.

The extra mile is similar. The Roman law of impressment allowed any Roman solider to conscript a Jewish native to carry his pack for one mile. (At 1.47 km, a Roman mile was slightly less than a modern mile.) The pack could weigh 100 pounds (45 kg) or more, so just the first mile was a big deal. Clearly, Jesus is not asking us to do just small extras; He was suggesting we do things that inconvenience us a good deal!

What would happen if you started to do these things with/for your wife? I think the common fear is that she would take advantage of you. Let me ask you; is your wife that selfish? If she is, you have big problems already! If you start doing these things and she consistently takes advantage of you, it is time to get some third-party help ASAP! On the other hand, maybe she will react well – maybe she will start to do some of the same for you. Even if she does not, you will be showing her a deeper level of sacrifice and love, and that is good on you.

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Great tweet of the week:

Sex is a sacred way to minister to your spouse and worship the Lord at the same time. @intimacy4life

Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:

 

Assume Love

Our Marriage is None of Your Business ◄ Actually, it is…


Black and Married with Kids

Don’t Weaken Your Marriage Over Some B.S. ◄ Not the B.S. You think – this is worse!
TITLE ◄ My friend Bil (yes, one “l” writes about the easy trap of thinking we are less than others.


Do Not Disturb

Learning to Listen ◄ Could you do better at listening?


The Generous Wife

Gracious Speech ◄ How you speak matters.
Words of Appreciation ◄ You cannot go wrong with this.


Journey to Surrender

Five Big Marriage Mistakes ◄ Yeah, I’d avoid these!


Marriage Life

WIFM? ◄ Start thinking this way and your marriage is in trouble.


One Flesh Marriage

4 Ways To See More Lingerie ◄ Understand her “hang-ups”.


Redeeming Marriages with Jack and Janet

“They Didn’t Even Smell of Smoke!” ◄ Yes, you can really get over past marriage hurts.


refine us

What It’s Not About ◄ Your sin is probably not about what you think it’s about.


The Romantic Vineyard

I Interrupt This Normal Blog Post… ◄ Once again, Tom shows us the right way to care for a wife.


…to Love Honor and Vacuum

When Your Past Hurts Impact Your Marital Battles ◄ This is written to women, but the point is just as valid for men.

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