One Bible verse that could end all marriage problems? That’s quite a claim! I give you Roman’s 12:10, in several flavours:
- Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. ~ English Standard
- Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other. ~ New Living
- Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another. ~ New King James
- Be good friends who love deeply; practice playing second fiddle. ~ The Message
In other words, put others ahead of yourself, and put the wants and needs of others ahead of yourself. Imagine if you and your bride both did this! If you each made it your goal to give more than you received, and to put the desires of the other first, how great would your marriage be?
That means if your marriage is having problems, at least one of you is failing to fulfil this biblical command. In reality, we’re all imperfect and we all fall short on this, so even if you think you’re doing better than she is at this, you know you could do better.
By the way, the Greek in this passage is interesting because one of the words is about leadership. The idea if to lead the way in showing honour and respect. In my mind, this makes this a headship issue in marriage; as head, the husband is to set the example.