Love Does, But do I?

June 9, 2013

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I am currently reading Bob Goff’s Love Does for the third time. This is a big deal because I’ve never read any book, other than the Bible, more than twice.

I’d like to tell you this book has been life changing for me, but it would be more honest to say it has challenged me to want to change my life, if I could just figure out how. Bob’s stories convince me I have totally missed Christianity – not the facts, but the heart of it. Or, maybe the problem is I have Christianity down pat, but have missed the heart of Jesus.

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The apostle Paul seemed to think love was important: “…if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.” [1 Cor 13:2 ESV] I have spent much of my life trying to understand mysteries, gain knowledge, and develop faith, but in all honesty, I have spent very little time working to be better at loving people. Do I love? Sure, I do – but do I love well enough? No, not even close. Does what I write here reflect the love of Christ well? Not very, I fear.

I think what is eating at me is I have made a great many things more important than loving people. I could say I do those things because I love people, and there is some truth to that, but when the things are more important than the love, I’m not actually following Jesus. Am I trying to love people, or I have I reduced them to projects?

I know when asked about the greatest commandment Jesus said, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” [Mt 22:37-39 ESV] I know it but I don’t feel I’m really living it. In my mind there have been all kinds of other things more important – things like following rules and making sure others follow rules, and “dealing with” those who don’t follow the rules.

If this rant doesn’t ring your bell, good on you. If it does, are you ready to do something about it? I am doing a lot of reading and praying, and probably some fasting. I want to love the way Jesus said I should, and I am tired of making excuses.

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4 comments
thebillywayne
thebillywayne

"Am I trying to love people, or I have I reduced them to projects?"  -- Excellent question that I think every man should keep in mind.  Keep up the good work.

Gaye
Gaye

Paul - Thanks so much for mentioning my blog and sharing two of my posts.  I really appreciate it!  Thanks also for the reminder about Bob Goff's book.  I started reading it (based on Lori's recommendation, I think) then got distracted by my Mom having surgery and all that has entailed.  I really need to get back to it.

Gaye

TheGenerousHusband
TheGenerousHusband moderator

@Gaye Gaye, glad to do it. Some of your stuff is more wife focused, but plenty of it is good for husbands as well.

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