Fake it Till You Make it

June 17, 2013

in 2013 Awesome Husband, Acts of Service, Series, YOU4HER

You have no doubt heard “fake it till you make it”. I have seen some studies that say this actually works because actions change how we think and feel. In fact, one study went so far as to show that Pretending to have superpowers actually changes you.

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This means you can become a better husband by “pretending” to be a better husband. You can become more loving and sacrificing by acting out those things. Decide who you want to be, play the part, and you will become that person. Choose how you want to treat your wife, start doing it, and in time you will start feeling that way.

Initially this is difficult – playing a role takes effort and concentration. Stick with it; as it starts to change you, playing the part will become easier. In time, it will become natural.

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2 comments
DeanStar
DeanStar

Paul, 

While I agree entirely with this post I do find it dangerously incomplete.  As believers, when we "fake it till we make it" in our flesh, what results ultimately will be sin as its origins are fleshly (John 6:63).  However, if we conform to Jesus' image relying on the Holy Spirit's power (Rom 8:2-13), we can obey whether we feel like it or not. Perhaps we send up a quick bullet prayer for help (Neh 2:4), allowing the Spirit to empower us over our failing flesh.  Then we see the eternal benefits, both in our lives and those of our wives (and children!).  Love your stuff, brother!


Dean

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