As I said yesterday, Fake it Till You Make it does work. Because it works, we need to be sure the role we “fake” is a good one. My suggestion is to aim for the man/husband/father God wants you to be.
I have been thinking about this a good deal since I read Donald Miller’s A Million Miles in a Thousand Years: How I Learned to Live a Better Story a couple of weeks ago. As Miller helped edit his autobiography into a movie, he learned about telling a story that makes a good movie. During the process he started to see that his own story/life was not what he wanted it to be, and thus began his process of editing his life story. I enjoyed Miller’s approach to living a better story; he is a follower of Jesus, but he is not overly spiritual and he is quick to admit his own faults and selfish tendencies.
If you want to live a better story, the first step is identifying that story. What is God calling you to? What has He put on your heart? What would you do if you were not limited in the ways you are currently limited (or think you are limited)? Forget about what seems possible; first find what feels right.