Earlier this week the US Supreme Court struck down part of the Defence of Marriage Act, a victory for those in favour of homosexual marriage. The response has been predictable from all sides.
I’m not happy about this turn of events, but it seems to me it was inevitable, given the church has long failed to defend marriages. The focus on homosexuals is, to me, a distraction from what we should be doing. Hebrews 13:4 has a command for us:
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. [ESV]
Does the church do that? The Greek word translated as honor there means, “as of great price, precious, held in honour, esteemed, especially dear”. Sure, we give lip service to it, but overall our actions don’t back it up. How much time and money do most churches invest in building up marriages? Do we actively disciple young couples about being good, biblical husbands and wives? Do we fight for marriages when the couple has given up? Often when a pending divorce comes to light folks in the church say, “Saw that coming”. What were those who saw it coming doing to prevent it? Were they too embarrassed to get involved? Were they afraid of offending a friend?
On a larger scale, why is the church putting more time, energy, and money into combating “gay marriage” than it puts into combating porn, adultery, and domestic violence? These other things are more common in society, they directly harm millions of marriages, and they are far likely to be happening in the average church.
I think we need to learn to apply 1 Corinthians 5:7-13:
Cleanse out the old leaven that you may be a new lump, as you really are unleavened. For Christ, our Passover lamb, has been sacrificed. Let us therefore celebrate the festival, not with the old leaven, the leaven of malice and evil, but with the unleavened bread of sincerity and truth. I wrote to you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people– not at all meaning the sexually immoral of this world, or the greedy and swindlers, or idolaters, since then you would need to go out of the world. But now I am writing to you not to associate with anyone who bears the name of brother if he is guilty of sexual immorality or greed, or is an idolater, reviler, drunkard, or swindler–not even to eat with such a one. For what have I to do with judging outsiders? Is it not those inside the church whom you are to judge? God judges those outside. “Purge the evil person from among you.”
Bottom Line: Defending marriage means taking a stand for the marriages around you. Be ready to fight for them. Be willing to lose a friend if it might save his marriage. Oppose the sins that destroy marriages, and champion the things that build marriages.
By the way: My friend Keith Giles, AKA subversive1, has some interesting thoughts on the The Supreme Decision.
Great tweet of the week:
You have the power to choose what you believe, but what you choose to believe has power over you. @jenniferdegler
Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
Featured Post – A must read article I saw this week:
Warrior Wives posted Balancing the Modesty Message ◄ This is the best, most balanced treatment of this issue I have ever seen.
Black and Married with Kids
How to Determine the Health of Your Marriage ◄ A good thing to know!
Pssst…Fellas: Wanna Know How to Really Turn Your Wife On? ◄ A wife tells all.
After 12 Years, Why I Can Say Marriage is the B.O.M.B.! ◄ I agree!
The Generous Wife
Intimacy in Marriage
One Surprising Technique to Reconnect Sexually ◄ Try this for better communication.
Spice It Up With Travel and Adventure ◄ Need some ideas?
The Difference Between Forgiveness and Trust ◄ A very important distinction!
The Romantic Vineyard
It’s The Little Things ◄ Are you paying attention to the little things?
Safe at home
At Your Home Do You Enjoy or Protect? ◄ Got stuff? Got too much stuff?
…to Love Honor and Vacuum
How Being a Control Freak Can Wreck Your Sex Life ◄ Written for women, but true for men too.