There’s a good chance you have already seen the hilarious video It’s Not About The Nail. If not, check it out before you read my comments.
I have said, a number of times, we need to learn to listen to our wives and hear both their thoughts and their feelings before we try to fix things. The standard advice is not to try to fix things at all, just listen. Personally, I think that is unloving; if you can really give perspective and useful advice, you should. If you can hear her first, both her heart and her mind, she is far more likely to listen to your suggestions. Other times there is no fix, or there is, but she’s not ready for doing it, and just listening is the best way to go.
However: If there is a nail in your wife’s head, you need to take her to get medical care immediately, no matter how mad she gets at you for trying to fix things! The “trick” is to know when it’s a nail in the head situation and when it is not. If you don’t step in, is something bad going to happen? Is someone going to get hurt, or put at risk of harm? Is someone going to sin or be put in great temptation?
Do you care enough about your wife to make her mad when it’s for her own good? Do you know her well enough, and hear God clearly enough, to know when that is the situation?