Years ago, the wife of a ministry leader told me, “When he gets grumpy – just let him be.” Nice of her to warn me, but I see a problem there. Apparently he and she both saw his grumpiness as an acceptable thing, and felt the best way to deal with it was ask others to give him a pass.
Yes, I’m all about grace, but the Bible is clear we’re supposed to help each other grow up. Being grumpy, or short, or distant, or giving someone, “the silent treatment” is not how God intends for us to act. We have a biblical mandate to help those who walk in these things work to do so less and less often. Yes, we do it in love and with grace, and we make sure we have checked our eyes for logs first, but with all that done we need to mention the wrong behaviour.
Where should you be doing this with your wife? Have you held back because you don’t want to rock the boat? Do you let her outburst at the children pass because you hope to have sex soon? Do you ignore gossip because “it’s her life”? Do you agree with her when she badmouths people because you want to make her feel better?
Step up, do what’s right! And, if you’re the one who is grumpy, or whatever, you know what you should do, right?