Someone pointed me to Where do you go to trade in the points? on Seth’s Blog, and asked how I would apply this to marriage.
Seth’s point is that earning “points” for doing something is fine, but trading them in is difficult. He suggests that the “best part of earning points is earning them, not trading them in.”
I agree, but I think there is a bit more to it. The points do matter, if we “earn” them regularly. We cannot trade them in, but we do get some perks for them. We “earn points” for doing things that bless our spouse, or for going beyond what is expected. This makes our spouse feel loved and appreciated, which generally brings rewards of some sort.
So have fun earning those husband points, and know that the rewards are real even though they are difficult to nail down.