I recently tweeted the following:
“Sexual refusal does not excuse sexual sin, but it does place your spouse in the temptation bull’s eye.”
As far as I am concerned, that is truth. I think anyone who debates it doesn’t understand sexuality very well. However, I had several complaints about the tweet.
A woman had several negative comments, including “this tweet leads to one spouse telling the other “if u don’t have sex w me right now I will cheat on u” – which is coercion.” and “this tweet enables marital abuse and rape.“
While a gentleman said I had, “confused the sacrament of marriage for ownership and servitude.”
This is the culture we live in; so about being “politically correct” and so into victim-hood that certain truths are just too dangerous to speak. “Someone might take that truth and use it wrongly, and then wouldn’t you feel bad?”
It seems sex in particular falls into this category rather often. Men are sex-crazed monsters, and if you give them half an excuse they’ll take advantage of you… or worse! It’s enough to make men think the only way to show they care about women is to be castrated!
Okay, enough ranting – I do have a point.
Men, God made you sexual. He gave you sex organs and a strong sex drive. He designed you to fall in love with a woman, marry her, and have wild, passionate sex with her for the rest of your life. Your desire to grab her butt and fondle her breasts is from God, and the way her naked body affects you is part of God’s plan. Do not let our messed up culture tell you your sexuality is wrong. Don’t let your wife’s fear and wrong beliefs convince you that you should change. Sure, you’ve made mistakes and no doubt have some wrong ideas or desires to deal with, but the immense size and staggering force of your sex drive is neither wrong nor inherently selfish. Pray for God to direct your drive appropriately, as you allow Him to clean up any areas that need work. And please, know God is for your sexuality!
Or to put it simply, as one fellow did on twitter “The #rapeculture commentary the other day has bothered me ever since. I’m not a bad person for wanting to have sex with my own #wife.“